Well, the weekend.

I did break up with Norton once and for all, since there was apparently some ambiguity there.

He called me last week and told me in no uncertain terms that he was totally uncomfortable in my home (if you have ever been to my home, you know that we are a welcoming sort, and rarely is anyone uncomfortable), uncomfortable around my child, and maybe uncomfortable in his shorts, who fucking knows, just plain uncomfortable and unhappy.

He then proceeded to attack everything about my parenting style and my kid.

BUT he still loves me.

That’s a pretty big But. It’s even bigger than my butt.

I cut him loose, primarily because someone who has only been around my child say, FOUR TIMES really doesn’t have the right to cast aspersions on the way that I parent or the way that my child acts.

My child is not a monster. I may have to tell him to do something ninety-five times on occasion, but he is twelve. Those of you with twelve-year olds, past or present, will get my drift.

This was his Big Problem. That, and the fact that the J-Man occasionally spoke without being spoken to first, and things of that nature.

Apparently Norton is of the Old School, in which children are to be seen and not heard, and hellfire and brimstone is to be rained down should a parent have to say something more than once.

It just ain’t so in my house.

I get irritated with the J-Man, sure. I can even think back to the day in question and remember that he was particularly deaf to my lips that day and was not listening when I told him to move the XBox into the other room or whatever it was I was harping about. I can also remember I didn’t really scream at him due to the fact that Norton was there.

But fuck if I’m going to be judged by someone who A) only has custody of his own (much younger) kids a few days a month, B) has only seen me interacting with my kid on a scant few occasions, and C) has made virtually no effort to interact with said kid.

I’m pissed. PISSED about all this.

Therefore I just sent him an e-mail expressing my displeasure and basically said that I wanted my stuff, and he AGAIN sent me an e-mail railing on about the shortcomings of my parenting and my child and how I needed to take his advice as a superior parent.

Well excuse me, buddy, but you’ve only been a parent for four years. Get back to me when YOUR kid is twelve.

Yeah. I’m irritated. A little bemused as well, but mostly irritated.

So, there was that.

Then we had a realtor come by to look at the house and possibly sign papers to sell it.

It was a no-go. Apparently the market value of our home is approximately Jack Shit, going by the value of the homes in the surrounding area that are currently selling or have recently sold.

It wouldn’t be worth it for us to sell it right now, so we are going to rent it out.

This is going to be a serious pain in the ass, I can already smell it. Renting in the ‘hood is a dangerous game. No one has credit, everyone is suspect, and people don’t take care of shit that isn’t theirs. Hell, people don’t even take care of their OWN shit.

I am trepidatious.

Still, we are forging ahead with this move, and our tentative move date is three weeks from the weekend.

In still other news, my laptop tanked. It won’t even turn on. A Guy from Dell is coming this week, supposedly to replace the A/C adapter and the motherboard, but I have yet to receive a call to let me know when he is going to do so.

Stress? I has it.

Happy Monday.

10 Responses to “Weekend Wrapup.”

  • Amy S. says:

    The stuff with Norton? Weird. Me thinks he has some bigger issues – ones that don’t have anything to do with you. I suppose it’s better to find out sooner rather than later but it still sucks. The parenting commentary? Out-of-line, rude and Not Cool.

    Good luck with renting the house. Ugh.

  • Anne says:

    Norton? Is an idiot. His issues will come and bite him in the ass when his kids turn pre-teen/teen. I know this, having watched it. It ain’t pretty.

    I’m sorry *you* had to deal with his issues, but as Amy S. said, better now than later.

    And oh I pity you as a landlord. Here’s to some luck!

  • bellesara says:

    Attacking the J-Man? Did Norton ever think that would actually make your relationship work? I’m sorry honey. That sucks and it hurts.

  • Lapintornade says:

    I laugh at Norton. I don’t think he understands the responsibilities/hard work of being a FULL TIME parent.

  • Nightowl says:

    You only have to tell J to do something 95 times? Wait until he’s 13 and you have to tell him double that. Like my 13 year old.

    *exasperated sigh*. I suspect our kids are a lot alike. Gets along well with most, generally well behaved and does well in school, but like most teen boys…can push our buttons enough to hit bat shit crazy mode. ;)

    Oh and Norton has delusions if he thinks his perfect little angels will remain that way. They wont. Their hormones will rage and they too will go deaf.

  • lee says:

    marilyn monroe has a great quote: “a wise girl learns to kiss without loving, listen with believing, and leaves before she’s left.”

  • John in Phoenix says:

    And so Norton has DROPPED *thunk!* the other shoe.

    Sounds to me like a classic conquer and divide issue of a man that would just assume that everyone in your life (except for his preciousness) is the ‘Enemy’ so that he can CONTROL every aspect of your life. That Son of a Bitch ! I speak from personal experience in this matter. I can’t believe I didn’t see it coming from this guy Jen. DAMN him !

    To anyone out there that reads Jen’s journal, this guy just made a textbook move onJen. She is vulnerable due to her circumstances ie; Major health issues, smart to the point of briliance, yet *stuck* living with a parent while taking care of a great kid and living in her Mother’s basement.

    Jen I am so sorry that you had to go through this… I have been through it myself and it took literally an intervention of my friends and family to get me out of the mind-set that the guy had me in. Gay, straight or otherwise – we are all suceptible to a GOOD conman.

    Good for you for saying “NO!” and I encourage you to continue what you have already done – no more contact.

    Oh I am so calling you right now woman…

    Major hug to you and your J-man lady. Too many sharks prowl the water on a daily basis just looking for the opportunity to snatch,Grab and gobble.

    – John in Phoenix

  • razor-vixen says:

    Ug, sorry about Norton. Sounds like some jerkiness came out there. While I don’t have kids, I do (vaguely) remember when I was 12…and listening to my parents ain’t something I wanted to do. If that’s your biggest problem with J, well, that’s no problem! Better to find this out now about Norton. Looking forward to adventures in renting!

  • CC says:

    So sorry to hear that the house won’t sell for what it’s worth because of the neighborhood. Maybe you can find some good renters. Get a cleaning deposit and rent in advance, etc. I’m sure you know more about renting than I do just take whatever precautions you can and hope for the best. *fingers crossed*

    Wow, as for Norton I would say good riddance but I know it’s hard to break up with someone you thought was a good guy. ITA with other posters that he may have other personal issues. I hate when people try to tell other people how to raise their kids. Arrg!
    I feel for you. Some people don’t realize how frakking lonely it gets being a single mom. Chin up Jen : ) things will work out.

  • lorrie says:

    My very first Twu Luv was like this. I still love him after 30 years and we see each other every year at Christmas at his girlfriend’s annual wrapping party. He’s a psychologist who has never been married or a father, so he knows *everything* about parenting. He compliments me on how well behaved the kids are because they’re quiet and shy around strangers. They ARE good kids, as is the J-Man, but they’re KIDS. He would be the worst partner ever to raise kids with and to his credit he never subjected any woman to that torture.

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